I have heard it million, if not gazillion times : “It is too late, I can not do it, if it’s meant for me then it will happen”. Well I say: It is never ever too late to start over your life.
But hey, I can not simply rewind my life.
Nop, indeed. However, you can easily let go of stuff that does not serve your highest good anymore, you can easily regroup and start charging ahead in the wanted direction. I sometimes sing when I feel like I am going upstream. It is one of the ways that allow me to stop and realign within. Here is the link to my past article about music as it does make me feel alive and makes me feel like I can do stuff again. Choose your power song and sing “It is too late to do this or that” away. Frozen song fits perfectly into that mood:
Let it go, let it go, can’t hold it back anymore
I often hear from clients and friends: ” I am stuck, I feel like wherever I turn to, I see blocks”. And it feels like you can not figure it out or you feel like you are not good enough and everything around is just bla blah blah. The truth is that you are never stuck, My Dear, you are evolving. The ‘feeling stuck’ thing is just your fear of moving towards what you truly desire. Because I am telling you: YOU ARE GREAT. YOU WERE CREATED GREAT and you can do amazing things if you choose to see your light inside. On many occasions, we feel stuck because we can not yet see our ability to shine, we turn to dark place and once we are there, we hide. Because it is easier to sit in the comfort of darkness. At least, it is the darkness we know. And then it takes one little spark to see the light, to see our greatness. Why do we not want to see our greatness?
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure” – Marianne Williamson
We tend to be so hard on ourselves, we fail and we scold ourselves for not doing great. We drag on things we did wrong years ago and thus we carry that energy around us. That baggage in the form of failure, heartbreaks, negative work experiences, rejections, arguments and the list could go on and on, is truly our treasure as these were merely lessons for us. I get it, at first it is hard enough to see all of that with a positive eye. However, if we allow ourselves to look at those from a different angle, or perhaps allow a mentor, a coach or a good friend to encourage us to stop and ponder for a while what exactly went wrong, why it happened, why we reacted that way etc, only then we can twist all those negative experiences into the ones we would like to have.
It is never a one stop job.
At least once a year, I will take a piece of paper and do the exercise called Wheel of Life. I bet you have heard about it like many times yet you just either did the exercise half way or simply skipped doing it. And you know what: that is ok as you can do it now. It is never too late. I do it because I wish to assess where I am in my life to see what is going great for me and what needs more balance or upgrade. I love the exercise as it clearly shows the areas of your life that could do with some clearing and polishing. And some areas will need a good scrub too. So go ahead grab a piece of paper and draw a fine circle and divide it into the following:
Once that is done, simple spend some time over each area and pu a dot on the line in each of them. Imagine each line is a scale 1 to 10 and simply choose the place on the line you feel it is. The below questions can be helpful:
LOVE – Do you easily give and receive love? Do you feel loved?
HEALTH – Are you happy with your diet? How fit are you? How often do you exercise?
MONEY – Are you happy with your current income? Is your money mindset doing fine?
CAREER – Are you going into right direction? Is your job the one?
FUN – How much fun is in your life right now? Can you be playful?
FAMILY& FRIENDS – Do you feel supported by friends and family? Do you spend quality time with them?
PERSONAL GROWTH – Are you aware of your growth? Do you look for ways to develop yourself?
SPIRITUALITY – How connected are you to your inner self?
Finished? Great job! Now join up the dots around the circle. what do you see? Does your circle look balanced? Imagine a bike, and look at your circle. Do you think you could ride your bike on circle like that? That exercise gives you a visual representation of your life right now. Does it make you feel great and joyful or worried and anxious?
If the first ones, then congratulations. If the latter ones, ask yourself: what area could I work on first and what one action step could I take right now to change it?
We all are moving either upstream or downstream. Learning about yourself is an ongoing process and only those who are willing to look within, assess and take lessons and make new approaches toward them, can shift mindset so it guides them to flow downstream. The path of ease. what about you? Have you ever felt stuck? If so, how did you deal with that feeling? What made you move forward? Share some insights below in comments. You never know what benefit and impact it may have on somebody’s else life.
And remember and remind yourself this:
it is never ever too late to start over!
Light and Hugs from Me